Confidence Vs. Cockiness
People often say someone who is confident is someone who is cocky and arrogant. I feel that people are labeling people as cocky when they are truly not confident. True confidence is when you are able to talk about other people’s greatness more then you talk about yourself. Whenever your hear someone talking about how great they are don’t get confused in thinking that they are so confident that they come off cocky for someone who is truly confident you will never hear them talk about how great they are.
"True confidence is when you are able to talk about other people’s greatness more then you talk about yourself."
I see it all the time when I am at the gym. For instance I will run into guys at the gym that are considered “buff,” and when I talk to them 95% of the conversation is about themselves and how much they lift, what workouts they are doing and how they have never looked this good. These are also the same guys that when they see a guy who is considered “smaller than them,” will be the first to bad mouth that guy and say how much stronger they are than that guy. At the same time when someone bigger than them comes walking into the gym they will be the first to say “he takes steroids” or find any flaw they can and make it a big deal in order to try to put that guy down so they can get back on top. Someone who has this type of behavior is not confident they are cocky. The difference is someone who is cocky will talk about how great they are and always put others down. They do this because they have low self-esteem and actually have no confidence. I can’t hear how great you are because I’m getting smacked in the face with how insecure you are. The average person will talk about how great they are and all they have done and how much better than are when in all reality they are revealing their greatest weakness, insecurity.
"The difference is someone who is cocky will talk about how great they are and always put others down."
In order to be able to love others you must first love yourself. The more you love yourself the more you are able to love others. The more you respect yourself the more you respect others. Average people will always compare themselves to others. There will always be someone better than you and there will always be someone worse then you so if you are constantly comparing yourself to others you will never be able to have peace of mind. Let me ask you this who would you compare your accomplishments, personal items or your looks too if you were stranded on an island by yourself? You would only have one person to compete with, one person to judge and one person’s performance to rate and that would be YOURS!!
"In order to be able to love others you must first love yourself."
Now imagine spending half your life in that situation. You would learn all about yourself what you are capable of doing and never compare yourself to anyone else you would learn to love yourself. Now imagine after spending half your life like that you were put into the real world surrounded by others in the same situation. You would be able to appreciate others and be interested in others and compliment others because you would not be so focused on yourself. Now unfortunately we can’t do that but that is how successful people think. They are not worried about others or comparing themselves to anyone else all they are worried about is living up to their full potential. They are confident that they will one day reach their success and when that day comes they will not need to talk about their success for they will have showed it. When you care more about others and are interested more in others than yourself by the law of indirect effect people will be more interested in you and care more for you too. Average people since they do not love themselves are constantly seeking love from others so they feel the need to talk about themselves and give people reasons to love them.
